Lessons. (Plus others) Photo Challenge – Love.
I adore low-key black and white which is why a lot of my B&W lean that way. I maybe overdo it a bit but I can’t help it. I am still learning but if I am being totally honest if I like it, I can’t really see past that.
I also adore my muse. My daughter, a hell of a lot more.
From a very personal point of view I love this shot. This was a lucky one where she looked up to speak to me while I was photographing her, If I am doing a shoot with her she knows now that I just want her to not look at me or pose. Just be natural and carry on with exactly what she was doing when I turfed up and shoved the camera in her face. A friend of mine said it reminded her of an NSPCC photograph. I know what she means, it could be with that look on her face but honestly this is just exactly her for me. As usual she is about to ask me a question. The millionth of the day because that is what she does, ask, learn, challenge, disagree, ask some more. She only wants to know what my answer is. She isn’t going to give me any credence for my answer, she is going to do it her way anyway. She always was even before she asked. I love that in her. It isn’t that she is challenging me personally she just wanted to know how others view it before she goes right ahead and does it her way anyway.
For me in her eyes I can see that question forming. The very word in her eyes at that captured moment is the word that she says before each and every question that she ever asks me and that word is ‘Muuuum….’. (with many ‘um’s).
The real question that daughters ask is this. ”Muuuuum. I have a question and what ever your answer is, I am going to go the other way to your answer but can I ask this question I that I will not accept any answer you give me anyway?”
I have tried trick answers, going the way she thought I might not go. Trust me, it doesn’t work. I have learnt not to directly answer. I now ask what she thinks instead, it is the only way. This is not avoiding conflict or giving in. It is allowing her own though processes to come to the best conclusions. I choose to work with her and avoid all the crappiness that goes with trying to mold her into what society says she ‘should be’. You know what, she is amazing just the way she is.
Obviously if her question was “Should I kill the cat?” I would not be writing this blog. We would be in joint therapy right now. I am simply talking about challenges and arguments that honesty really do not matter in the bigger scheme of things. Sometimes how they view things might actually be a lot healthier than we view them when you take a step back.
The next photographs are ones I took of her while she was taking pictures for an online photography club that she is part of. I love her personality that she wants to be the best at what ever she is doing. That she reads avidly on the subject and questions everything. She knows more about aperture than I do.
Here are a couple of shots of her shooting ‘Scissors Still Life’ project.
We are learning together. I have talked to her about rules of thirds, composition, all the standard stuff and she get’s it. I tell her only so that she knows it. With her youth she delights in breaking the rules and loves that she has broken them. So do I. I love her individuality, her creativeness. A lot of her shots are blown out, crazy mad. Just fun photographs that really make me smile and think wow that really does looks ace! She see’s things from a totally different perspective at her age and she teaches me an awful lot. She makes me want to break the rules. I think this lady will give me a massive run for my money. I can see many an outing for many years to come with our cameras. This is ‘me and my daughter’ time. That is one of the things of many that I love. Never be too proud to learn from your children.