Daily Prompt: Happily Ever After
“And they lived happily ever after.” Think about this line for a few minutes. Are you living happily ever after? If not, what will it take for you to get there?
I don’t normally indulge in the daily prompts. Usually because I can’t think of anything to write for them but today’s was quite apt for me as I have my sad head on so I thought I would post.
I would love to know what happily ever after meant. Happily ever after what? An event, birth, marriage, divorce, illness? What was the something that caused the happily after to exist in the first place?
Generally in fairy tales it is something quite catastrophic that the fictitious characters have managed to escape from or learnt a lesson from that then means everyone can skip into the future hand in hand safe in the knowledge that situation is not going to happen for them again. In the tales I always felt like it meant ‘safe’.
Just over a year ago I was happy. I had started a new life on my own terms with my children and the future looked bright. For a change I had followed my own path. I was happy and ‘happily ever after’ is how I would describe how that made me feel.
A while back I made a decision, I allowed someone back into my life who had been in the past. I didn’t think at the time it was a wrong decision. However, as in fairy tales you often learn that the past is the past for a reason. Feeling safe, happy and contented can sometimes skew the decisions that you make. You can forget why things went wrong. It isn’t a regret and will never be one because it brought as much happiness as it did unhappiness. It was just that my ‘happily ever after’ thought that it could make everyone else happy too.
It wasn’t going to work and it didn’t so now I am back to where I was but a little sad. I don’t need collective Awwww’s though because with that sadness comes lessons learnt, new beginnings and the knowledge that things happen for a reason. if something is meant to be it will be, if it isn’t it wont. That is life.
You cannot allow situations or sadness to engulf you. You have to use them to make things better to make your life better and to chase your happily ever when things go wrong. One thing I have learnt is that in my past I have been surrounded by too many people who fail to do that and in those cases your half full cup can struggle not to tip over.
So, my long-winded answer is that my happily ever after is now, today.
I have healthy happy children who make me laugh, make me proud, (make me mad sometimes too I am not wearing rose-tinted glasses all the time you know.) We have a roof over our heads, food in the cupboard, friends to hand and of course I have my camera which I use to put a tiny bit of my heart and soul into every photograph I take and no matter what, I will continue to do so.
Now things have changed slightly for me but isn’t that just life? It is full of unexpected twists and turns, who knows what will happen as we continue to chase our ‘happily ever after’. There may be hard times and sad times, but without those wouldn’t life be dull?
When your own life is not a bed of roses you will take a photograph that people love, or write a poem that caresses the soul and makes others cry, pen a song that seeps into the very core of a heart or tell a story that relates, touches and affects others.
Happily Ever After for me is always going to be ‘now’ and it will always be ‘Work In Progress’.